I cant believe her kids ruined everything at our wedding! my friend moaned to me
So, I wasnt actually invited to Emilys wedding, even though we were quite good friends. A month or so after the wedding I congratulated her, we agreed to meet up at a nice café, and I brought her a present. Of course, I couldnt help but ask how her big day went, but honestly, I soon wished I hadnt. The story of her lovely wedding turned into this long rant about her husbands sisters children, who shed brought along even though everyone had been told the party was strictly adults only.
For whatever reason, Emily was set on not having any children at her wedding. She was very particular with the planning, even deciding exactly who would sit next to whom. The whole thing was so carefully organised that kids just didnt fit into her vision at all.
Her husbands sister, though, had only recently gotten divorced I think it was just a few months before the wedding. With two little ones in tow, it must have been nearly impossible for her to leave them at home for long. Emilys mother-in-law, the childrens grandmother, was also going to the wedding, so she couldnt watch them. And finding a babysitter for the night was probably expensive and terribly stressful I mean, its always a worry leaving children with someone you dont know very well.
Before the wedding, Emily had met up with her future sister-in-law a few times and stressed that something would have to be sorted out with the kids, but she never actually gave any suggestions or really seemed all that bothered. So, when her sister-in-law arrived with the children, Emily was instantly annoyed. She told me the kids were restless even during the ceremony. Her mother-in-law noticed Emilys frustration and tried to steady things she managed to sort out a couple of spare seats at the reception with the restaurant manager.
The other guests only made things more awkward, some just lightly, others outright asking, So why couldnt everyone bring their children? Naturally, these questions left Emily flustered, and she had to come up with answers on the spot to calm everyone down.
Honestly, I dont think it ever crossed Emilys mind to perhaps hire someone to keep the kids entertained, or set up a little sweet table for them, just so theyd have something to do and not be in the way.
I suppose if youre throwing a wedding for yourself but also for the people you love, you ought to consider their feelings and situations too, not just your own.
I didnt say anything much about Emilys complaints I didnt want to put a wedge between us but from the look on my face, she probably guessed that I didnt really support her hard stance against having children at the wedding.
