When my boyfriends parents were due to visit, I began tidying up the flat.
Ive been in a relationship with my boyfriend for two years. He proposed, and I happily accepted. Yet, I found it strange that he was in no rush for us to move in together.
He was living with his parents in a three-bedroom house, while I was staying in university halls. Ive always believed that couples should live together before marriage, to see if theyre truly compatible and get used to daily life together. Id brought it up several times, but he simply pretended not to understand. Then fate intervened: his parents had to travel for a fortnight, and we finally had a chance to live together.
I tried my best to be the ideal partner. I cooked, cleaned, and kept everything neat and tidy. Every day, I made delicious meals and did my utmost to please him.
However, one thing bothered me. I asked him to vacuum the floor, but he replied that it was womens work and he had no intention of doing it. He said that, in his family, a mans role was to provide material comfort, not to help his wife around the house. I said nothing, hoping that maybe once we lived together for good, things would change.
Before his parents returned, I made sure the house was spotless. I wanted to leave a good impression. I baked a cake, cooked dinner, and then went back to my own place.
The next day, Oliver told me his mother wasnt pleased with me. Apparently, I wasnt a good housekeeper. I was stunned the first time I visited, the house was much messier! Why was she criticising me? She didnt even appreciate the cake I baked, saying it tasted awful. I felt so offended.
I suspect she doesnt want her son to leave home, and thats why she dislikes me. Perhaps she has her sights set on someone else for him. Why do I think this? Well, since his parents returned, Oliver has been cold and distant, and we barely see or speak to each other these days. I dont think our wedding will happen at all.
Looking back, I realise that seeking approval from others, especially those set in their ways, isnt the path to happiness. Its important to be respected for who you truly are and to expect fairness and partnership from those you love.
