My sons pleas for us to organise his wedding bordered on desperate. Right after their engagement, the young couple declared they didnt want to wait and insisted that, together with the brides parents, we arrange their marriage as swiftly as possiblepreferably in the summerso all their friends could attend and the weather would be pleasant.
You only get married once in your life, my son told me, quite convinced.
Our family was never poor, and we could quite reasonably afford to pay for our sons wedding, but when we were inundated with suggestions about hiring a limousine, booking out an entire country manor for all the guests, purchasing a tailor-made gown for the bride, and throwing a grand party with some brilliant DJ, neither we nor our counterparts could manage it all financially.
The brides mother said we shouldnt give in to the childrens demands and foot every bill. Still, he was our only son
We had to take out a loan to cover all the costs. Were still paying it off to this day. My son and his bride separated just four months after the wedding. Both were unemployed from the moment they married, and since nobody in either family was willing to support them, they divorced.
So, really, who needed this wedding? Were left with the debt that we still must repay If my son decides to marry again, hell have to pay for everything himself. A wedding is certainly not an investment you can count on.
