“You’re just my wife, but she’s the mother of my child!” – these were the words I recently heard from my husband

I really want to share my story. Im quite confusedIm not sure whos in the wrong or who I should trust. Maybe you can look at it from the outside and give me some good advice.
My husband and I have been married for two years now. But the entire time, hes kept close contact with his ex-wife.
When we got married, theyd been divorced for a year. I knew that. I also knew they had a child together. Their daughter is now in Year 4. I have never minded him seeing his childquite the opposite, I always believed it was the right thing to do.
Ive often joined him at weekends when he picked up his daughter from her mothers house. But now, its like my husband uses that as a perfect excuse.
We dont have children of our own yet, although were planning to. Still, I worry that he might love her daughter from his first marriage more than hell love ours. Hes always been a straightforward man, and hes told me before that he feels guilty about the divorce and the impact on his child.
My husband always goes to all the school meetings with his ex-wife. I imagine some people probably dont even realise theyre divorced.
He often calls his ex and they talk for hours. He messages her all the time. He even pops round after work quite regularly. I feel like he spends more time with her than he does at home with me.
It seems like his ex knows about every little detail in our lives. I dont like this. A child is a child, but I feel like this is all getting to be too much. My husbands set himself up nicelyhes got a foot in two families.
Ive raised the issue more than once, always trying to stay calm and find a solution. But he just jokes it off, saying its all for his daughters sakeeven though he must see how much this gets to me.
Recently, we had an argument, and my husband said, Youre only my wifeshes the mother of my child. I cant just cut her out.
That didnt settle me at all. In fact, it only made me angrier. A good chunk of our household money goes to his first family. On top of maintenance, he pays for all sorts of extras for them. And Im left with nothing.
Why is that?
Is it just because I havent had a child with him yet? Does that mean Im not worthy of his attention? Its absurd.
His ex was the one who filed for the divorce. I remember my mother-in-law told me all about the scenes, how she threw him out, called him all sorts of names. And now? Whats changed? Why does she still rely on him and take his money? It must be nice to get the money without having to do the washing, cleaning, and cooking. Thats left to me now.
To be honest, I feel unnecessary in this strange triangle. What was the point of divorcing her and dragging me into all of this?
Now, I dont trust anyone. I get the feeling she wants him back. Maybe shes realised what shes lost.
Perhaps I should just pack my bags and leave. Maybe I should get out of their way and let them have their happy family back. And that might have been simpleexcept Ive just found out Im pregnant. That was only a few days ago. I dont know whether to tell my husband. My head’s a mess. Maybe you can help me? What should I do?
Sometimes, when things get tangled and uncertain, its easy to feel lost and alone. But maybe the lesson is this: your feelings matter, honesty is vital, and its okay to speak your truth. In any relationship, respect and understanding are just as important as lovewithout them, no one truly feels at home.