My husband wants his ill grandmother to move in with us. The issue is that several doctors have already confirmed shes suffering from a very serious illness, and theres no cure. Sometimes she becomes confused and loses her memory for short periods.
After a while, her memory returns. She wanders outside and forgets where her home is, so we have to go looking for her. Her behaviour is quite eccentricsometimes she makes strange sounds that no one can understand. I told my husband its just not possible. We have young children and live in a two-bedroom flattheres no way his grandmother can stay with us.
My husband was brought up by his grandmother, because his father spent most of his life in prison and his mother struggled with alcoholism. He also has a sister who lives with their mother in a one-bedroom flat and a brother who rents a place. My husband feels its his responsibility to take his grandmother in and care for her, because she shouldnt be left aloneshe could hurt herself.
I realise the situation is desperate, but I cant risk my own life or my childrens safety. Yet my husband insists that the responsibility falls directly on him.
I reminded him that the flat is mine and its my decision whether his grandmother can live here or not, and I dont think she can. He took offence when I mentioned the ownership of the flat, packed his bags, said he wanted a divorce, and went to live with his grandmother.
Im hoping hell come to his senses and return, because I dont want to break up our family, but I cant put our children in danger either. I really hope my husband understands this soon and comes back home. Ive suggested many times that we can afford to hire a carer for his grandmother. I dont understand why he refuses to consider it.
