I Welcomed My Elderly Mother into My Home, Now I Regret It—Can’t Send Her Away and Feel Ashamed in Front of My Friends.

I took my elderly mother into my home. Now I regret it, I cant send her back, and Im embarrassed in front of my acquaintances.
I welcomed my aging mother into my apartment. The regret weighs on me, and Im unable to dismiss her. I feel ashamed before my friends.
Today I feel compelled to put my storyso personal and heavyonto paper, as it presses on my chest like a stone. I need a wise, thoughtful piece of advice to understand how to escape the quagmire Ive sunk into myself.
Each of us carries our own worries and trials. We must learn not to judge others but to reach out when someone is drowning in despair with no apparent way out. No one is exempt from such predicamentstoday you may judge, tomorrow you might find yourself trapped by fate.
I brought my mother to live with me. She is already 80, previously residing in a village near Rouen, in an old house with a sloping roof. She could no longer manage on her ownher health was failing, her legs gave out, her hands trembled. I saw her fading away alone out there, so I decided to bring her into my city apartment. I didnt anticipate the burden I would bear nor the impact on my life.
At first everything went smoothly, like clockwork. Mom settled in my threeroom flat in Lyon, and she seemed to respect the order. She didnt meddle in my affairs, kept to herselfstaying in the bedroom I had lovingly prepared for her. I arranged every comfort: a soft bed, a warm blanket, a small TV on the nightstand. Her only outings were to the bathroom, the toilet, or the kitchenI strived to surround her with ease. I watched her diet, preparing only what the doctors advised: no fats, minimal salt, everything steamed. The medicationexpensive but necessarywas bought by me with my salary. Her pension? A pitiful sum, barely enough.
After a few months, things began to deteriorate. Urban life started to wear on hermonotonous, grey, like the concrete walls around us. She began to impose her own rules, picking fights over the smallest things, turning trivial matters into crises. Sometimes it was dust I hadnt cleared in time, other times a poorly made soup, or Id forgotten her favorite tea. Nothing pleased her; everything irritated her. Then the manipulation beganshe played on pity, sighed theatrically, repeated that she lived better in the village than in my prison. Her words cut me like a knife, yet I endured, clenching my teeth, trying not to react to the provocations.
My patience ran out. I was worn down by constant reproaches, shouting, her perpetual dissatisfaction. I started taking antianxiety pills, and after work I would stand frozen at the doorway, unable to go back inside. Behind that door there was no comforting cocoon, but a battlefield where I lost every day. My life had turned into a hopeless nightmare.
Sending Mom back to the village isnt a solution. She wouldnt survivethe house is halfruined, lacking heat or comfort. And how could I abandon her there, leaving her to fate? What would people think? I already see their disapproving looks, hear whispers behind my back: A daughter who abandons her mother What a shame! Im ashamed even to contemplate it, ashamed before others and before myself. But I cant go on.
The situation feels like a tight knot I cant untie. Im exhausted, drained, lost. How can I keep living under the same roof with her? How do I handle her stubbornness, the wall of complaints and grievances? How can I soothe her without losing myself? Im at a dead end, sinking deeper into despair each day.
Have any of you faced similar stories? How did you live with elders whose temperament is as abrasive as sharp stones that shatter our patience? How do you keep your sanity when a loved one becomes your toughest trial? Please share your adviceI need a glimmer at the end of this dark tunnel.